How long has it been since your last orgasm? Come on, don’t be shy. We’re family here.
If it takes you too long to remember, today’s post has been written just for you. I sat down with sexologist Kimani Fisher, blogger and creator of VforVadge.com, to discuss your most urgent sex questions.
A few weeks ago, I asked you all to submit your questions to my Ask.fm account (so you could be anonymous if you so chose). Quite a few of you wrote in and I selected four questions for my time with Kimani. Read on to see if your question was selected, and scroll all the way to the end to enter the giveaway (a $50 value!)
The most important part is communication—letting him know what you are looking for, what you like and then implementing those changes in the bedroom. As far as the 5 minutes, sometimes men do take longer than women to get built up to lasting longer. Sometimes a bit of oral stimulation can help with that. Let him release first and then the second go ’round tends to last longer.
It often leads back to foreplay. If he’s not prepared to get you where you want to be, sometimes it takes you longer than expected. Adding foreplay, even starting with a massage, or even just manual stimulation can help you to kick-start your orgasm a little earlier. Also, you might want to try different types of stimulation. Giving him that extra level of direction can help you speed things up, so to speak.
If you’re really tired at night, adding stimulation can help you get warmed up. If you’re sleepy, he might want to start by touching you in places you enjoy, to get you to self-lubricate and get you excited to have sex. Making sure you are in the mood is really important. Nobody wants to have dry sex. Also, using positions that take less work on your end might make it a little better for you and it also helps him use all his energy so he feels more satisfied as well.
You’re an adult and you’re entitled to enjoy your sexuality, as long as you’re doing it responsibly. It starts with getting into that frame of mind. Your mom is not in the bedroom with you. Your grandma is not in the bedroom with you. Make sure you are covering all your bases. At the end of the day, no one else can tell you what’s going to work for you sexually. There’s nothing wrong with having sex.
Can somebody say amen? The fun doesn’t stop here because we also have a giveaway, that Kimani herself was so generous to provide us. One lucky reader will win a Prince Rechargeable G-Spot Vibrator (a $50 value). All you have to do is create some entries using the Rafflecopter below. Contest ends Thursday, March 5! Good luck!