It’s hard being a “mommy blogger” because every time you go to write a post about your mothering style, you’re opening yourself up to attacks.
“Oooh, her kids are picky eaters – must be her fault…”
“Oooh, she doesn’t love her kids which is why she makes them go to bed at 8 p.m…”
“Oooh, she’s a frumpy mom, she’s let herself go…”
But I don’t really care.
I write about my daily struggles and joys of motherhood because I find comfort in releasing the words from my mind and then hearing from fellow moms how their days are so similar.
Some of you might read some of my posts and wonder, “Why is she always whining? Seems like she has a good life to me…”
And I do have a good life. A great life, actually. Writing this blog helps me press rewind on the good days and press pause on the bad days. Sometimes after a really long day, I can’t wait to log into WordPress and write the post that’s been percolating in my mind all day. Other days I don’t want to write because I fear it would be too raw.
But I do want to thank all my readers, because you all have given me strength and encouragement throughout everything and I appreciate you from the bottom of my heart!
Now for the question that I try to ask at the end of each post: Do you judge moms based on their blog posts? Do y’all judge me? Be honest! LOL
I dont judge. I try not to judge others in real life much less from their blogs. We all have our own struggles. My first son was super easy….never complained or anything …then I had my daughter…things were easy…i judged back then looking at them going gosh thank goodness that not my kid…then my daughter hit 2 and became someone i struggled to figure out on a daily basis…lol
I don’t judge you. In fact I often find myself intrigued by your posts and sometimes I feel the same way as sme of ur posts. We each have our struggles and to me anyway we all have struggles…some expressed some not…but..those who judge I think should think about if we were a fly on their walls would everything be so black and white then….lol
thats the way I think about it…I pitty the moms who “seem” like raising 3 kids is easy and put on “the show” Raising children is full of struggles and over whelming with the feelings that come with it…I think it sgreat to see others feel the same way I do or do the same things…I love my children dearly but I’m not mr rogers…lol!!!
uh…*trying not to sound ugly* this is your blog hon. this is based on your views and experiences, so what’s to judge? a blog is a somewhat superficial glimpse into a person’s life so i do not believe it would be fair to “judge” anyone based off of the musings therein. now, you do put yourself out there, but not in a heavy or i-take-myself-too-serious kind of way. i remember when someone actually said something harsh abt you…and you didn’t even snap back at them. i don’t feel judged when i read your preferences. that is what may amke someone want to judge a blog writer.
i’ve visited a few blogs where i felt like they were talking down to the readers…as if we were dumb if we didn’t do things JUST LIKE THEM. you even ask for our feedback! so i say do you youngmommy!!! keep up the good work 😉
Lol, no judgement here. Its all about experiences, and like you said, its about sharing them. That’s why we write, to feel like we are not alone in our struggles and in our joys. I think its a wonderful thing. At the end of the day, all that matters is that you’ve been able to have a release in your space. We are all privileged to be invited into each other’s lives, so I say, keep doing what you do without worry… I do =)
Of course not! I think that’s the beauty of the mom-blog community – or at least the blogs that I read. We are all going through ups and downs in the process of raising children and growing as individuals. It’s not pretty. We make decisions some can criticize – whether its breastfeeding vs bottle feeding, co-sleeping, working vs staying at home, discipline and even the amount of information that we expose about ourselves on our blogs is up for debate. But the bottom-line is that it is our decision to make.
I sometimes second guess myself before hitting “Publish” on some posts, knowing that I am putting myself out there based on my decisions. But its my blog. My small space on the Internet. It’s my life. I am being honest. If you don’t agree, that’s fine. To each his own. If it really upsets you, don’t read.
So that’s my little rant. I don’t judge you. I think your blog is amazing, and important. I love reading about you and your family.
~ humps
My answers are always honest (cause I’m scared my grandma will pop out of the screen and call me out…LOL!). I don’t judge b/c if people are judging me, I’m a wanna-be supermom who’s really just trying to make sense of entrepreneurship/motherhood/wifeyness/all dat…
We do open ourselves up though, just check my most recent post about my perspectives on dress code! I got reprimanded, called Hitler, and a whole slew of other things, but like you said Tara, this is OUR forum, so we write our honest perspectives, judgement be damned!
Kudos to YOU for focusing on the comfort that the release of writing provides!! Plus we love your work, so keep it comin’!
I don’t judge. Besides, we’re all moms, and although we have different experiences and lives, at the end of the day, we all have something to rant or express.
I love reading blogs and learning about other people’s experiences, trials and tribulations-no one is perfect but we all need a way to express ourselves sometimes. Being a Mom is tough period.
I definitely don’t judge. Many times, mommy bloggers are the only people who are comfortable with being completely honest about their experiences (good and bad) so I really appreciate it.