I think I’ll just leave this here. Discuss among yourselves:
Well, before I go, here’s a good comment from a YML reader, from when I posted it on the Facebook page:
It sounds to me that the “sleepover” part was really a side note to the main message of her book, that sex is a topic that should be openly discussed with your teens as an eventual part of any healthy, responsible, long-term relationship, and not simply suppressed with the ultimatum “Not under my roof” or “Not until you’re married.” Although I wouldn’t see that much of a problem with permitting a well informed 18 year old to have a sleepover like that with their bf/gf of 2 or 3 years. I think parents who refuse to acknowledge or discuss their teen’s sexual activity, even when they are the ones paying for birth control and obviously must know it’s happening, are being unreasonable, and perhaps even a bit cowardly. You can’t pretend that they won’t have sex – of course they will, and banning it from your home is not going to stop them. If anything, they will feel as though you are denying their rights as (mostly) adult human beings. Their emotions, and urges are just as real, valid, and intense as anyone ten years older and often even more so due to their hormones at that age, the best you can do is prepare them for it, that is after all your job as a parent.