If I Knew Then What I Know Now…


…man, I totally would have appreciated my pre-baby boobs more. Ah, those were the days…

…I would have said, “No,” to cake and “Yes,” to therapy a lot earlier.

…I would have gotten married at the courthouse…that money we spent on the wedding could have gone in savings!

…I would have spent less time arguing with my husband. Yes, sometimes he’s wrong, but sometimes (just sometimes) he’s right. Darn it.

…I would have spent more time on the floor with my kids rather than on the computer trying to finish an article. Granted, these were paid pieces, so I was providing for them, but I could have done a lot more work after they went to bed.

…I wouldn’t sweat my blog stats so much because it doesn’t really matter how many moms come here each day, but whether they find something useful when they do.

…I would have started exercising regularly a loooong time ago. Excuses on why I can’t make it to the gym + cake = Hey, where’d all this fat come from?

What are some of your “Wish I knew then” moments?


  1. Raya Sunshine says:

    If I knew then, what I know now I …

    .. Would have also gotten married at the courthouse. He, he..

    … Would have saved some of that cash I used to blow at the mall on weekends when I was a child-less loan officer, living single in that downtown high-rise (at least I got to experience it)…

    … Would have taken exercise seriously, since it seems that a slim body that never exercised, gains and retains weight… really well… esp after two (soon to be THREE) kids…. smh…

    … Would have spoken to my Dr. more and screamed at my hubby less… Love you, babe…

    Other than that, I’m so grateful that I get to experience motherhood!

  2. I really would not change a thing. I love who I am and although I struggled to get here I feel the hard way has always been the best way. Makes you tougher.

  3. I would have really cherished the moment when my son was a baby, that time really flies by.
    I would have told myself to walk away from more arguments. Sometimes it really doesn’t matter as much as you think it does.
    I would have started the family tradition of taking an annual vacation earlier. The memories last forever and it brings everyone togethor.
    I would have not stressed so much about work. Jobs come and go but they don’t define me as much as I thought.

  4. I have to cosign to all except the cake & exercising…well I’m currently on a chocolate rush. I cannot quit my tasties and I’m so lazy. P90x is gonna kick my tail once I order and attempt it.

  5. Yep. I totally took the pre-baby boob for granted. Totally.

  6. This is straight-up at the center of my vision board!

  7. Tara, I love your writing. You are funny with your truths! I became a mother at 24 years old and Lord knows what this list looks like for me. I’m 32 now and I can truly say I’ve been tested…I’ve passed some tests and failed others but it’s all for the greater good of learning. Oh, did I mention that I am not married and never married my child’s father. Girl, that is a whole ‘nother story right there. I thank God because now I feel at peace and just free with my little 8-year-old going on 30-year-old! And the thing is out of all of my trials and tribulations, she’s happy, well-adjusted and doesn’t have a clue about the failures. In fact, she thinks we have so much money that we can eat out everyday…LOL…She’s a joy, and my aspiring pop singer…yes, how did she come to that as a career?! But I say all of this to say that you are doing very well even in your low moments. Girl, take all of that experience and be happy and continue to teach your children. God bless you and your family!