I get asked all the time why I started this blog and my short answer should be: “Because I was pissed off.”
I was tired of feeling like I would never see any moms like me (young, ambitious, yet unsure) in the magazines I read or the shows I watched. I was pissed because it seemed like everyone assumed that if you were pregnant or a mom, that you had the money for a minivan or a nanny, or you were done with school, or you were happily married with quite a few years of wedded bliss behind you.
I was none of those things when I had my daughter, and only 2 out of 3 when I had my son. (Still don’t have money for a nanny, if you’re wondering.)
But one thing I quickly learned is that moms at ALL stages need support. It’s critical. Support is the difference between a mom who lives her dreams and one who resents her kids for burying her dreams alive.
So I hope this blog will bring some much needed support to the masses. You’ve been through it, I’ve probably already written about it.
Ever felt envious of your childless friends? Me too.
Ever have someone sneer at you for being a young mom? I have, on more than one occasion.
Ever daydream about what life will be like once you’ve raised your kids? Check out my list of things I already KNOW I’m going to do.
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Enjoy! 
About the young mom thing…this doesn’t exactly have to do with the post, but close enough.
Whenever I see another young mom in public, I just feel ‘connected’. Even if I don’t speak to them, just making eye contact and doing the little nod helps to remind me that I am not alone. Their are other young mothers out in the world who have the same struggles I have; the struggles that some older mom’s don’t know and will never understand.
It’s also reassuring to me on days when I am feeling defeated to see other young moms and think, “Hey, she’s doing it, and I know I can too.”
@Emerald – Hey, it is close enough. And I do the little head nod thing too and give them a big smile. (Inside, I want to run up to them and hug them and ask them all sorts of questions and hope we can be friends…LOL…but I spare them the crazy.) It is awesome when you have someone you can look to and know you are not alone. Isolation and loneliness are horrible.
Isolation and loneliness are horrible and for the past month I’ve had both. Today I came to the blog bc I wanted to sit in my car and cry. See I’m a young, single mom of two with a career, ambition, 2 missing hubcaps, an apartment (I really want a house) a graduate degree and money in the bank (that I’m scared to spend on myself.) As I think about my other friends who have no children and what they’re doing and places they’re going I get sad. But then I come to this blog and know there are other women who have the same frustration, dreams and hopes and that frown turns upside down. Thanks girl! I needed to free myself today.
@Ms. Prince – Thanks for stopping by. I’m going to e-mail you.
funny how sometimes anger/frustration can spur some of the most fabulous outcomes 😉
Though I am not a young mother, my mum had me at a pretty young age. From that time till now, I don’t think the concerns have changed much. I’m glad people can come to your blog and find sanity amidst their very chaotic life as a young mother
I’m totally in love with this site! I’m 28 years old now, but I had three children by the time I was 23. I have experienced lots of negative assumptions & perceptions from people over the years. Most people I encountered during my pregnancies assumed I wasn’t married and had never been to college. When in fact I did get married (after the first 2) and I had not only a Bachelor’s, but a Masters degree.
I have received sneers from “older” mothers at doctor’s offices and parks, as well as some of my children’s teachers and a few family members. Despite the negativity, I wouldn’t want motherhood any other way and I wouldn’t change a thing!
Well said, Tara. Well said. I totally agree. ALL moms at ALL stages need support. Not having it can totally make you feel ALONE and if prolonged enough, you can start to resent your child[ren] for not having lived your dreams. And the looks and stares I got (and still get) from people… that ALONE can make you feel invalidated as a mother! I’ve learned to deal with the judgment, but not the lack of support. SO… cheers on a great post!
.-= Alicia´s last blog ..Two Pieces of Advice… From Me to Me =-.
I’m a 29 year old (about to be out of the young mommy club) first time mother (5 months). Glad to know there are others out there that feel like me! I am happily married (2 years), not finished with school, would never drive a mini van, and some days I feel like I can do it all and other feel like I cant keep up for squat and would love a maid. I just want my “Diva” back! (crying outloud with my mouth open)