A new study suggests first-time moms are getting older. Good thing or bad thing? What’s your opinion?
What is the best age to have a child?
August 14, 2009 · by ·
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A new study suggests first-time moms are getting older. Good thing or bad thing? What’s your opinion?
Of course every situation is different, so this is a big blanket question… so I’ll give a big blanket answer.
The majority of the time, having a baby in your mid-twenties allows you to have more energy when playing with your child, and probably better fit you for growing a friendship as they grow older. Having a baby in your mid-thirties usually gives you better financial padding so that you can give the baby all the spoils that you choose, but at the very least give him/her a stable home environment.
Personally I think we are meant to have children at the usual child rearing age which i think is around 18 – 35.We are having children older because of many factors mainly economics,social trends and attitudes and a host of evolving sociological issues all intermingling.Reproductive technology and adoption are booming billion dollar industries. It’s the american dream.
I agree with both Becca and Erykah… I really dig being a relatively younger mom because of the security of growing old with my child(ren). I can not forsee my future, but as someone who was raised by her great-grandmother, I can completely appreciate knowing that I will still be alive to see my child(ren)’s high school and college graduations.
I had my son at 25 and that was the perfect age in my opinion. I felt I was mature enough, had finished college and settled somewhat in my career and had some world experience. I would like to have another child and have given myself a cut off age of 35. More power to women who have children later and life!
i don’t think….well, i KNOW it would not have been a good idea to have children later. i’m tired now, and i’m only 30-LOLOL!
I didn’t have much choice in the matter. I got married at 33 and am turning 35 in a few weeks. If I am blessed to have kids, I will put aside my worries of if I’m too old or tired. I know a woman who got married at 37, first child at 40 and second at 43. She’s an inspiration when I feel like I’m “too late”.
I think it all depends on the situation and where a woman is in her life. So many women are career oriented and end up waiting, but soon come to find that it becomes rather difficult to get pregnant as time passes. On the flip side, those that had children younger wish they waited a few more years. I had my first at 29 and thought this was a good age for me.
I think it’s smart move. For many, you’re figuring things out in your twenties. Getting a feel for the world and the way it works. Trying to get the right things right. Many mess up, miss the mark, flop and fall flat on their faces. Then they get back up knowing what not to do again. Some say that it’s never a right time to have a baby, but I’m not one of them. I think the more planning and preparation that goes into this the better for baby and you.
Well this question depends on each persons goal in life if you do things “right” your suppose to spend 4yrs undergrad 2yrs grad by this time you’re 24ish, then start your career get comfortable 26ish. Don’t forget you shld travel and meet someone, develop a relationship by this time 28ish married wait about a year since your supposedly in the honeymoon stage so between age 28-30.
I say to each their own. You will know when the time is right for you to have a child.
I, for one, am glad that I did while I was young. I’m in my thirties and my son is a senior in high school. At the time, it was hard. Now, however, I’m glad I got it over with. I don’t think I would have the energy–or patience–it takes to have a baby at this age.
My son will be in college next year, when some of my friends are just starting to have kids, if they even have any. Now that I have an established career, I can choose to focus on that without feeling guilty about wanting my cake and eating it, too.
WIf I had to do it over, I would do it the same way. As a soon-to-be YOUNG empty nester, life–after the kid–is going to be amazing.
@MNSMD – I will be 40 when my kids go off to college. 40!!! So yeah, it might have been tough in the beginning, but we’ll grow together and when it’s time for them to spread their wings and put down roots elsewhere, it’ll be time for me to spread my wings as well.
Hey Tara!
Yes, life starts at 40 (so I’m told, not quite there yet)! It’s scary to know that just yesterday I was walking him to kindergarten and today he is driving, has a job and is thinking about moving out on his own. Say what!
Amen to the spreading of the wings. I’m at a loss for all the free time I have now and will have in the future. My whole life since having him has been all about him, now I have rediscover who I am–outside of being a mom, that is.
@MNSMD – Awww. You know, I’ve heard that a lot – that we get so wrapped up in our kids that it takes a while to rediscover who we are as women. Good luck to you as you figure out what makes you “you.”