I can’t tell you the last time my husband and I went out dressed like grown-ups. In the beginning of our marriage we’d be going to other folks’ weddings a couple times a year, dancing the night away and eating lots of delicious wedding cake (yum!). But since 2008, ain’t nobody getting married anymore so our date nights have been on the almost unacceptable side of casual. We’d go to a local chain restaurant, get too full to also go see a movie, and then head home to sleep. Boooooring. On the nights where we don’t have a babysitter (or don’t feel like paying for one), we have date night at home – usually Redbox and Chinese takeout.
Don’t get me wrong—my primary love language is quality time, so as long as we’re together I’m happy. But the lack of effort started to bother me.
So when a friend of ours invited us to a married couples dance sponsored by her church, I was all for it. Dinner, drinks, dancing, dessert, AND a professional photographer? Sounded perfect for Valentine’s Day. We paid for our tickets and I spent three weeks looking for the perfect dress.
It felt good to get out of the house and just be a wife. Not a mother, not a boss, not anything other than focused on the man that I love. As young parents, we don’t get to do that often but our date reminded me how good it felt to be a woman. It also reminded me that these kids won’t stay young forever and if we’re going to make it as a couple, we have to invest in our relationship. I don’t want to be staring at a stranger over the breakfast table once the kids are off at college.
How often do you get out for date night? What do you usually do? What would make it easier for you to get out more often?