Man, I Feel Like A Woman


I can’t tell you the last time my husband and I went out dressed like grown-ups. In the beginning of our marriage we’d be going to other folks’ weddings a couple times a year, dancing the night away and eating lots of delicious wedding cake (yum!). But since 2008, ain’t nobody getting married anymore so our date nights have been on the almost unacceptable side of casual. We’d go to a local chain restaurant, get too full to also go see a movie, and then head home to sleep. Boooooring. On the nights where we don’t have a babysitter (or don’t feel like paying for one), we have date night at home – usually Redbox and Chinese takeout.

Don’t get me wrong—my primary love language is quality time, so as long as we’re together I’m happy. But the lack of effort started to bother me.

So when a friend of ours invited us to a married couples dance sponsored by her church, I was all for it. Dinner, drinks, dancing, dessert, AND a professional photographer? Sounded perfect for Valentine’s Day. We paid for our tickets and I spent three weeks looking for the perfect dress.

It felt good to get out of the house and just be a wife. Not a mother, not a boss, not anything other than focused on the man that I love. As young parents, we don’t get to do that often but our date reminded me how good it felt to be a woman. It also reminded me that these kids won’t stay young forever and if we’re going to make it as a couple, we have to invest in our relationship. I don’t want to be staring at a stranger over the breakfast table once the kids are off at college.


How often do you get out for date night? What do you usually do? What would make it easier for you to get out more often?


  1. You guys look absolutely lovely! I’m not married, but you know I love me so Date Night! LOL. There’s just something about getting all dolled up and hitting the streets on NYC… it DOES make me feel like a women! And it’s a great feeling!

  2. Glad you had a great time! This seems to be a reoccurring theme among my married friends! It takes work to have a great marriage and quality time is crucial in that effort.

  3. You two look cute together!

    We don’t get to go out too often. I wish we did, but our babysitter options are very limited. We go out maybe every 8-12 weeks. Usually, it is dinner and a movie. Blah. Well, in late January, we went to a really nice, formal birthday party, so it was nice to get really dressed up and have fun together. Every once and a while, his fraternity holds balls and parties, so we go sometimes.

    Maybe it’ll be easier to have date night when the kids are old enough to stay at home alone for a few hours. I remember my parents started going on more dates when my oldest sibling was around 13, and they felt comfortable leaving us all alone for a few hours at night.

  4. Beautiful!!! I love date nights, thanks for share :)