Welcome To The New YML!

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Did I really just write a post talking about my new site four days after it launched? Why, yes. Yes, I did.

Part of the reason for the delay is because I’m still trying to figure out what I want to do with the space and what it’s supposed to represent.

Here’s what I’ve got so far. I started this blog in 2008 because I felt like “I” was missing from the conversations about parenting. No one looked like me. No one had a life like mine. A brief reminder: when I found out I was pregnant with my daughter, I was 20. I was unmarried. I had no health insurance. I was making about $400 a semester. In short, I was not feeling very confident about this journey ahead of me and the fact that every mother who seemed to have a voice about anything was a) white b) older c) rich and d) married, I just felt so out of place and unheard.

So I started writing. About everything. About anything.

And people started writing, telling me that my stories were inspirational. And really, I could have been anybody. I still don’t think my story is all that compelling compared to people like Lisette or Gloria. My point is that just being here, in the space, was enough to give other people hope.

So I kept writing.

And then I caught the attention of folks in high places. Traveling to conferences and making speeches and presentations. That is fun. I definitely enjoy that.

So I kept writing.

I tweaked my formula a bit, starting being a bit more open with my life story and who I was and what I stood for. Then the rug got pulled out from under me when I lost my job. But I just considered it an opportunity to go full force with this here community.

So I kept writing.

I wrote about the ups and downs of trying to build a career where you fit your work around your children, versus trying to fit your children around your work. I talked about working from home, about blogging, about everything that I was doing as I was still trying to figure out how to do it. This could have potentially been embarrassing, as living your life out loud can sometimes be.

But I kept writing.

And that leads us here, to today. I’m still writing because I need to. We all do. We all need to share our stories and be our most authentic selves. We need to talk about what bugs us, what gives us hope, what makes us laugh, what gives us strength. We need a community to give us that space to simply be ourselves.

I want this space to be comfortable for you. To see a new post and instinctively know that yes, you are welcome here. This new redesign is all about capturing that spirit and putting it into digital form. I hope you enjoy it.

And I will keep writing.


  1. Good morning!

    Love the new site.

  2. Putting your life out there in the public eye is hard, but because you took that risk and continue to do so, you’re inspiring so many others to open up about their truths and put their stories out there. We as young moms are so much more than what the media has portrayed us to be. And I’m thankful that YML has given us a voice to show our reality to the world!

  3. I admire you because you’ve always put it all out there, something I’d vaguely chat about behind closed doors. But as I grew older, I realized that everyone’s lives are FAR from perfect. It all depends on the story they (a,b,c, and d) share on their blogs/public.

    Life’s more fulfilling when you are authentic. I know some people go through great lengths to maintain a squeaky clean profile and I don’t see how they do it. It sounds so stressful, but I guess when you’ve done it so long, it becomes easy.

    Anywho, the site looks great. I love how you have the “channels” front and center. 2013 is going to be pretty epic for you!

    • @Sheena – I remember when I was trying to be anonymous. I didn’t post pictures of my kids, I didn’t post my name or where I lived. I was scared of being “found out.” Like the fact that my houe is always a damn mess and I argue with my husband and I yell at my kids when I don’t get enough sleep. I wanted my blog life to be different from my real life but I quickly found out that it’s a lot of work to hide who you are! I found that by relaxing a bit, and coming to terms with who I am, it made alllll the difference!

  4. Congrats – love the look and feel of the new site. Very sleek and elegant