I dedicated this week to co-parenting because I want readers to know that just because the relationship with your child’s father has ended, it doesn’t mean you can’t both be dedicated to your kid and work together.
However.
I know it ain’t easy. I know some days you will want to wring his neck or worse. I know some days you’ll be kicking yourself for being in this situation. Some day you just won’t feel like being nice or cooperative and you want nothing more than for that person to not exist.
But short of some illegal activities, that ain’t gonna happen. He’s there. And if he’s not in love with the idea of co-parenting or goes out of his way to make it difficult for you, then there’s not much you can do to change him.
But if all else fails…you have us.
And by “us,” I mean this community of women here at the Young Mommy Life.com.
Mama, I’m telling you this: When I had my daughter, I cried every single day, I had no one to talk to. Sure, I could have talked to my mom or my boyfriend, but they weren’t where I was. They weren’t my peers. I wanted someone who knew what I was going through.
So I created this blog and vowed to be the place that young mothers could “find each other” and get support, the support that I was lacking at the time.
So while co-parenting is well and good and is presumably the ideal, remember: you have us, too.
Tara, this post is so true. Ever since I stumbled upon your blog, I’ve felt a home away from home, an almost retreat like atmosphere, and support I never knew could exist. You know all about my situation, and you know it isn’t ideal. But having you, and the community of young moms here and on facebook, its so much easier to get through and deal with. You all give me the strength I need to get through the difficult days, and you give me humor and encouragement. I am honored to be one of your young mommy friends.
very encouraging 😉
What an awesome support system!! I went through some serious legal issues with the father of my 2 oldest kids. Namely, because he became a drinker and I REFUSED to let my kids go with him on many occasions even though a court order is in place. He did us all a favor and moved out of state. One of the happiest days of my life. Anyway, this is one kind of example where your support system is much needed. xoxo
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