#SmashYourGoals – 5 Steps To Successful Goal Setting (Part 1)

smash your goals series
You’re reading my five-part goal setting series to help you #SmashYourGoals. Read the other four tips here.

1) Determine what YOU want

Not what your parents want. Not what you think you should want because of what society tells you. Not what you’ve wanted since you were a child because maybe those interests have shifted.

Get clear on one thing. What do YOU want?

This was the hardest step for me because for so long I operated according to everyone else’s desires. I went to college because that was what was expected of me. I took the first job offered to me because I needed money. I stayed at that job for too long because that was expected.

But once I got really clear on what I wanted my life to look like (lots of travel and good food and time with my kids), I could get started on making it so.

If you find that you usually set goals but rarely if ever reach them, it might be because you’re not 100% in love with them. You’re killing yourself trying to make it through this nursing program but secretly you hate it. You’re trying to get a promotion at work but you actually like your current job better than the job above you. You’re trying to lose 10 pounds so you can wear a bikini at the beach, but for whose benefit is that?

When you’re really living for yourself, your goals are urgent. You’re hungry. You want it so bad you can taste it.

So take a few moments to discover what YOU want:

  • What do you want your life to look like?
  • What puts a smile on your face?
  • What are some of those “should dos” that you can eliminate from your list so you can focus more on the things you want to do?
  • In five years, where do you want to be?

Next up: The power of visualizing.

Comments

  1. The first step is the hardest! It’s so difficult to understand what you really want versus what you think you want. Great post! Enjoying your blog!

  2. Sanaa Brooks says:

    Love this! I actually had a “break” from school but always knew I wanted to finish and I started again this month! I wasn’t doing it for my daughter, like everyone kept saying, or because I needed a job, I was doing it because I had started something that I NEEDED to finish!

    I stopped listening to “advice” from others because I realized that they weren’t really giving advice on things I wanted to do, just things they thought I should do. Sigh!

    ~ Sanaa #BLMGirl
    http://www.sanaabrooks.com

  3. Love the beginning of this series! So often we unintentionally set our goals based on what those around us want and not on our true passions and calling. I think as women we are so used to putting the needs of others before ours that it’s a natural thing to do. We have to be selfish with our goals! Awesome reminder and I’m looking forward to the remainder of this series.

    ~ Michelle
    #BLMGirl
    http://www.divaswithapurpose.com

  4. When I was younger all I cared about was having a job, but as I gotten older I was tired of making someone else rich and started creating my own business. Did I think it would be successful? No, but I was so passionate with it that it did become successful and soon I’ll be leaving my job and becoming my own boss completely.

  5. Thank you so much for writing about this. We have be sure we know who we are and what we want.

  6. This is such a great point. So many times we think quickly that we know what we want, but when we really examine it may be slightly different. Setting SMART goals is a great way to really determine what we want in life and business!

  7. I believe it is is important to identify an attainable goal and create a plan to achieve it. I also would dare to ask the question, “Is this goal self-serving or does this goal benefit the community?” I believe that the most powerful goals are motivated by not passion but compassion. Those are the ones that carry such powerful legacies long after we’re gone.

  8. You “set goals but rarely if ever reach them, it might be because you’re not 100% in love with them.” THIS RIGHT HERE. Girl. I needed that this morning.

  9. It’s so important to not live our lives based on everyone else’s wants. I so love this!

  10. Yes! I l love this! It’s so important to ask yourself this question every now and then to make sure why we are doing what we are doing.

  11. Amen to it all! I found that the things I really want, I go hard for. I was actually thinking today that there hasn’t been much that I’ve really wanted that I didn’t work for until I go it.

  12. Goal setting and prioritizing have been a common theme in the posts that I seem to keep landing on lately. The universe is really speaking to me right now.

  13. Goal setting is key to progress. Your tip is a crucial step. Knowing what you want sets the foundation for success.

    Thanks for sharing this series.

  14. I am following this series, this is exactly what I needed…I am in a state of transition, and reminding myself about where I want to go is important If I am to remain focused, organized, and productive #brownbloglove

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  16. Now that the new year is approaching I have been looking for tons of helpful articles about achieving goals. I love how easy, simple and direct your approach to accomplishing goals. Thank you so much!!!

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  17. Love this, Thank you so much for writing about this.This is such a great point.

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