Comments on: I feel like a fraud http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2010/02/09/i-feel-like-a-fraud/ a real look at a 20 something mom Fri, 10 Feb 2012 06:23:31 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=113 By: Tara http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2010/02/09/i-feel-like-a-fraud/comment-page-1/#comment-10326 Tara Sun, 07 Mar 2010 22:59:18 +0000 http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/?p=1731#comment-10326 @Erin - And with that, you just got comment of the week. Wow. Very profound. You have me sitting here in awe. @Erin – And with that, you just got comment of the week. Wow. Very profound. You have me sitting here in awe.

]]> By: erin http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2010/02/09/i-feel-like-a-fraud/comment-page-1/#comment-10325 erin Sun, 07 Mar 2010 21:59:37 +0000 http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/?p=1731#comment-10325 Ugh. I know exactly what you mean. Anyone else try to wear a push-up bra after breastfeeding and they just...don't? Maybe I'm just having withdrawals from my no-need-for-a-pushup-I'm-pregnant-and-they're-EVERYWHERE-stage. Or that awkward pouch that reminds you of when you were going into the second trimester and you saw a bump on the stomach that had been flat your entire life. Or - my least favorite, and most frustrating - how the lack of sleep is really making me look old. My long-lashed doe-eyes are about half the size they used to be. I looked sixteen pretty much my entire life, and now when I see people I haven't seen since before my pregnancy, they don't recognize me. "You actually look older, I didn't even recognize you!" Thanks. Actual quote, there, ladies. I even heard one of my closest friends (you know that one you can always trust to be brutally honest?) say the words, "You look asian now!" Hey! I didn't even ask! ...I'm ranting. My point is this. I have new curves. I know however jealous we are of Heidi Klum and how she lost the weight by walking out of the hospital (seriously, what is that?!) someone is jealous of us. I wear a size bigger jeans. All my weight is not in my booty anymore. I look asian, too, I guess. But I look soooo good holding my son. Nobody looks better with him than I do. Ugh. I know exactly what you mean. Anyone else try to wear a push-up bra after breastfeeding and they just…don’t? Maybe I’m just having withdrawals from my no-need-for-a-pushup-I’m-pregnant-and-they’re-EVERYWHERE-stage. Or that awkward pouch that reminds you of when you were going into the second trimester and you saw a bump on the stomach that had been flat your entire life. Or – my least favorite, and most frustrating – how the lack of sleep is really making me look old. My long-lashed doe-eyes are about half the size they used to be. I looked sixteen pretty much my entire life, and now when I see people I haven’t seen since before my pregnancy, they don’t recognize me. “You actually look older, I didn’t even recognize you!” Thanks. Actual quote, there, ladies. I even heard one of my closest friends (you know that one you can always trust to be brutally honest?) say the words, “You look asian now!” Hey! I didn’t even ask!

…I’m ranting. My point is this. I have new curves. I know however jealous we are of Heidi Klum and how she lost the weight by walking out of the hospital (seriously, what is that?!) someone is jealous of us. I wear a size bigger jeans. All my weight is not in my booty anymore. I look asian, too, I guess. But I look soooo good holding my son. Nobody looks better with him than I do.

]]> By: Sharmetra http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2010/02/09/i-feel-like-a-fraud/comment-page-1/#comment-9444 Sharmetra Wed, 10 Feb 2010 00:09:00 +0000 http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/?p=1731#comment-9444 Wow! Where do I begin? First, you know better! We all do. But who created the rule stating we can't have mental moments? We have created this superhuman image for ourselves and its the little "holes in the gloves" that expose us for who we really are! (Now Im making a mental note to remember my own advice and practice what I preach)! Second, let's come up with a way to hold each other accountable for reintroducing our inner-sex goddess. We can start a private online club! The Hot Mamas Club! Wow! Where do I begin? First, you know better! We all do. But who created the rule stating we can’t have mental moments? We have created this superhuman image for ourselves and its the little “holes in the gloves” that expose us for who we really are! (Now Im making a mental note to remember my own advice and practice what I preach)! Second, let’s come up with a way to hold each other accountable for reintroducing our inner-sex goddess. We can start a private online club! The Hot Mamas Club!

]]> By: Latoya H. http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2010/02/09/i-feel-like-a-fraud/comment-page-1/#comment-9441 Latoya H. Tue, 09 Feb 2010 20:29:36 +0000 http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/?p=1731#comment-9441 I totally understand your frustrations, but I think the vanity part of your issue is no big deal. Many woman can look cute, be "fly", and have everybody part perfect and still don't have a family (or husband) to call their own. I have many friends, that still have their 20somthing bodies and careers and no man or family. Constantly counting their clock ticks. But personally, I have the issue of not having the career title to follow all my roles. That is my insecurity. I totally understand your frustrations, but I think the vanity part of your issue is no big deal. Many woman can look cute, be “fly”, and have everybody part perfect and still don’t have a family (or husband) to call their own.

I have many friends, that still have their 20somthing bodies and careers and no man or family. Constantly counting their clock ticks.

But personally, I have the issue of not having the career title to follow all my roles.

That is my insecurity.

]]> By: Tara http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2010/02/09/i-feel-like-a-fraud/comment-page-1/#comment-9439 Tara Tue, 09 Feb 2010 17:57:35 +0000 http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/?p=1731#comment-9439 @Michelle - Man, you leave great comments. :) The killer part is I already KNOW I'm too hard on myself. Why do we do this? I want to be the BEST MOTHER/WIFE/SISTER/DAUGHTER/WRITER/ETC. Not just up there, but THE BEST. It's too much pressure. I need to quit it. @Michelle – Man, you leave great comments. :) The killer part is I already KNOW I’m too hard on myself. Why do we do this? I want to be the BEST MOTHER/WIFE/SISTER/DAUGHTER/WRITER/ETC. Not just up there, but THE BEST. It’s too much pressure. I need to quit it.

]]> By: Michelle http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2010/02/09/i-feel-like-a-fraud/comment-page-1/#comment-9437 Michelle Tue, 09 Feb 2010 16:59:17 +0000 http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/?p=1731#comment-9437 I think your being too hard on yourself as we all are when we set certain standards for ourselves.I'm sure your great at whatever you put your hands on! Just breathe and accept the Fact your only Human and all Humans have flaws and challenges to face and those things MAKE Us who we are! Keep up your head up and just remember Do What you Can Do and There's always tomorrow to tackle the rest of the Never Ending To Do List! I think your being too hard on yourself as we all are when we set certain standards for ourselves.I’m sure your great at whatever you put your hands on! Just breathe and accept the Fact your only Human and all Humans have flaws and challenges to face and those things MAKE Us who we are! Keep up your head up and just remember Do What you Can Do and There’s always tomorrow to tackle the rest of the Never Ending To Do List!

]]> By: Tricia http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2010/02/09/i-feel-like-a-fraud/comment-page-1/#comment-9433 Tricia Tue, 09 Feb 2010 14:36:24 +0000 http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/?p=1731#comment-9433 Aww, sorry you had a mini-breakdown. Girl trust you are not alone. Its a definte struggle to figure out the balance of being a woman and a mom and a wife. But I think in due time the balance will come. Just know that you are aware of things that can be tweaked and you are making an effort towards them. You could be oblivious and that would be worse. I think the moms who put everyone else before them are great!! It means that you arent selfish which makes you great. As for me, I'm right there with you looking for that balance we will get there... Aww, sorry you had a mini-breakdown. Girl trust you are not alone. Its a definte struggle to figure out the balance of being a woman and a mom and a wife. But I think in due time the balance will come. Just know that you are aware of things that can be tweaked and you are making an effort towards them. You could be oblivious and that would be worse. I think the moms who put everyone else before them are great!! It means that you arent selfish which makes you great.

As for me, I’m right there with you looking for that balance we will get there…

]]> By: latoya http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2010/02/09/i-feel-like-a-fraud/comment-page-1/#comment-9431 latoya Tue, 09 Feb 2010 12:59:02 +0000 http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/?p=1731#comment-9431 Reflect...typing from my blackberry, lol Reflect…typing from my blackberry, lol

]]> By: latoya http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2010/02/09/i-feel-like-a-fraud/comment-page-1/#comment-9430 latoya Tue, 09 Feb 2010 12:58:13 +0000 http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/?p=1731#comment-9430 Girl, I don't even redlect on those times anymore,its like a dream. Girl, I don’t even redlect on those times anymore,its like a dream.

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