Comments on: keeping (or getting) it hot http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2010/02/01/keeping-or-getting-it-hot/ a real look at a 20 something mom Sun, 01 Aug 2010 00:41:06 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Jarrett http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2010/02/01/keeping-or-getting-it-hot/comment-page-1/#comment-9279 Jarrett Thu, 04 Feb 2010 04:23:14 +0000 http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/?p=1702#comment-9279 Right on the money as usual. Really hit home for my relationship. Right on the money as usual. Really hit home for my relationship.

]]> By: CJ http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2010/02/01/keeping-or-getting-it-hot/comment-page-1/#comment-9228 CJ Tue, 02 Feb 2010 14:49:21 +0000 http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/?p=1702#comment-9228 Yeah, I know it's all me. I need to quit. I don't want to turn him off with my self-issues. Yeah, I know it’s all me. I need to quit. I don’t want to turn him off with my self-issues.

]]> By: Tara http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2010/02/01/keeping-or-getting-it-hot/comment-page-1/#comment-9225 Tara Tue, 02 Feb 2010 14:02:50 +0000 http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/?p=1702#comment-9225 @CJ - I compare myself too. I haven't purchased any new lingerie because I want my pooch to be gone first. So I feel where you are coming from. But let me tell you, I do not think your husband is laying awake at night wishing he had some of these superfit celeb chicks with him. He doesn't. Maybe we need to give guys more credit. He loves YOU. And you love him. Sure, he liked the way you looked before, but he also likes the way you look now. If you don't like the way you look now, then THAT'S what we need to work on. I'm betting that you look great, but every mom gets doubts about how she looks, especially when it comes to "sexy time." We just have to keep at it, throw on the lingerie even if we think we're not quite ready for it. :) @CJ – I compare myself too. I haven’t purchased any new lingerie because I want my pooch to be gone first. So I feel where you are coming from.

But let me tell you, I do not think your husband is laying awake at night wishing he had some of these superfit celeb chicks with him. He doesn’t. Maybe we need to give guys more credit. He loves YOU. And you love him. Sure, he liked the way you looked before, but he also likes the way you look now. If you don’t like the way you look now, then THAT’S what we need to work on. I’m betting that you look great, but every mom gets doubts about how she looks, especially when it comes to “sexy time.” We just have to keep at it, throw on the lingerie even if we think we’re not quite ready for it. :)

]]> By: CJ http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2010/02/01/keeping-or-getting-it-hot/comment-page-1/#comment-9210 CJ Tue, 02 Feb 2010 03:20:27 +0000 http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/?p=1702#comment-9210 Hey, Tara! Our intimacy took a nose dive for a while. We went on a three day trip last September, and that definitely helped. My son just got out of the hospital, and now everyone else in the house is sick, so there goes our intimacy. But most of hte time, we are very affectionate, and our son is always watching us hug and kiss just like your daughter. I need to step it up in the fashion department. I feel so unsexy lately. I recently purchased some lingerie, and my husband has yet to see me in it because I feel fat in it. I think I need to stop comparing myself to girls in magazines and on tv, because I can't help but feel like my husband wants me to look like that. Hey, Tara!

Our intimacy took a nose dive for a while. We went on a three day trip last September, and that definitely helped. My son just got out of the hospital, and now everyone else in the house is sick, so there goes our intimacy. But most of hte time, we are very affectionate, and our son is always watching us hug and kiss just like your daughter. I need to step it up in the fashion department. I feel so unsexy lately. I recently purchased some lingerie, and my husband has yet to see me in it because I feel fat in it. I think I need to stop comparing myself to girls in magazines and on tv, because I can’t help but feel like my husband wants me to look like that.

]]> By: MsBabyPlan http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2010/02/01/keeping-or-getting-it-hot/comment-page-1/#comment-9207 MsBabyPlan Mon, 01 Feb 2010 21:32:37 +0000 http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/?p=1702#comment-9207 Hello Tara, I have been reading your blog for awhile and i wanted to tell you I love the fact that you are dedicating it to twenty-something mothers. I am not a mother yet, but I hope by reading blogs and preparing towards the journey of motherhood it will be easy in future. Intimacy is hard for many couples and in this journey I aim to be fit before I get there because I heard is easy to get back into shape if you were already active before the P. This will allow me be sexy soon after P. and in this case I will feel good about myself and the hubby will see the benefits ;)! keep in touch. Hello Tara, I have been reading your blog for awhile and i wanted to tell you I love the fact that you are dedicating it to twenty-something mothers. I am not a mother yet, but I hope by reading blogs and preparing towards the journey of motherhood it will be easy in future.

Intimacy is hard for many couples and in this journey I aim to be fit before I get there because I heard is easy to get back into shape if you were already active before the P. This will allow me be sexy soon after P. and in this case I will feel good about myself and the hubby will see the benefits ;) !

keep in touch.

]]> By: Tara http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2010/02/01/keeping-or-getting-it-hot/comment-page-1/#comment-9203 Tara Mon, 01 Feb 2010 18:32:13 +0000 http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/?p=1702#comment-9203 @Tiara - Oh, how you just made my day! :) Thank you so much! And yes, I know exactly what you mean. My OBGYN still calls me "kiddo." (I don't mind 'cause I absolutely love him, but still.) I'm writing a follow-up post to this tomorrow. Be sure to stop by! :) @Tiara – Oh, how you just made my day! :) Thank you so much! And yes, I know exactly what you mean. My OBGYN still calls me “kiddo.” (I don’t mind ’cause I absolutely love him, but still.)

I’m writing a follow-up post to this tomorrow. Be sure to stop by! :)

]]> By: Tiara http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2010/02/01/keeping-or-getting-it-hot/comment-page-1/#comment-9201 Tiara Mon, 01 Feb 2010 17:56:13 +0000 http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/?p=1702#comment-9201 Oh, how I needed this post. I work full time, I have a two year old and I am almost four months pregnant - Admittedly, I am making no effort to keep or get it hot lol. My poor spouse hasn't so much as frowned at me. He dutifully rubs my feet and snuggles on the little inch of bed he has left (that is not occupied me and my giant maternity pullow) and never complains. You've shamed me - I should work on it. I don't know about the heels - but maybe we can go to bed without the maternity pillow? Also, I want to add - I just discovered your blog and I LOVE it. I married my hubby at 24, had my son at 26 while I was living in Manhattan and I felt like I was 16. The doctor's kept calling me young and talked about how old they felt. I realized in the neighborhood I lived in - it was the norm to be 35+ and having your first child. Also - I was the first of my friends to have a child. It is so amazing that you have created a community for us happy, child-having, 20-somethings who are living and loving our little babies. Go you! Oh, how I needed this post. I work full time, I have a two year old and I am almost four months pregnant – Admittedly, I am making no effort to keep or get it hot lol. My poor spouse hasn’t so much as frowned at me. He dutifully rubs my feet and snuggles on the little inch of bed he has left (that is not occupied me and my giant maternity pullow) and never complains. You’ve shamed me – I should work on it. I don’t know about the heels – but maybe we can go to bed without the maternity pillow?

Also, I want to add – I just discovered your blog and I LOVE it. I married my hubby at 24, had my son at 26 while I was living in Manhattan and I felt like I was 16. The doctor’s kept calling me young and talked about how old they felt. I realized in the neighborhood I lived in – it was the norm to be 35+ and having your first child. Also – I was the first of my friends to have a child. It is so amazing that you have created a community for us happy, child-having, 20-somethings who are living and loving our little babies. Go you!

]]> By: Tara http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2010/02/01/keeping-or-getting-it-hot/comment-page-1/#comment-9199 Tara Mon, 01 Feb 2010 17:20:13 +0000 http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/?p=1702#comment-9199 @Sharmetra - I think you've just inspired me to do a follow-up post tomorrow. What I will say for right now is that you shouldn't be hard on yourself. Not at all. Check back tomorrow for a more detailed post... @Sharmetra – I think you’ve just inspired me to do a follow-up post tomorrow. What I will say for right now is that you shouldn’t be hard on yourself. Not at all. Check back tomorrow for a more detailed post…

]]> By: Sharmetra http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2010/02/01/keeping-or-getting-it-hot/comment-page-1/#comment-9197 Sharmetra Mon, 01 Feb 2010 15:34:50 +0000 http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/?p=1702#comment-9197 Honey, let me tell you when I saw this link on my twitter page, I almost pushed my son on the floor trying to get to this blog! I am sooooo in need of help in this area of my marriage! My husband is 7 years younger than I am (he is 23 and Im 30) so I am fully aware that what I won't and don't do, there are millions of other women out there that are ready and willing to do any and everything under the sun to please my man. The problem is just what you said Tara, IM TOO TIRED! But the sad thing is I can find energy to do else but have sex. We have 3 kids (7,9, and 8 months). So when I get home, it's basically dinner, wash clothes, homework, discipline, yelling, facebook, twitter, blog, chatting with sister, etc. When I do get settled the only thing I want to do is watch TV before I go to bed. (looking at all I do everyday, I guess I just figured out why Im tired, huh?). Im glad I was able to get that off my chest! Now Im gonna go set SEX GOALS so I can get my groove back! Honey, let me tell you when I saw this link on my twitter page, I almost pushed my son on the floor trying to get to this blog! I am sooooo in need of help in this area of my marriage! My husband is 7 years younger than I am (he is 23 and Im 30) so I am fully aware that what I won’t and don’t do, there are millions of other women out there that are ready and willing to do any and everything under the sun to please my man. The problem is just what you said Tara, IM TOO TIRED! But the sad thing is I can find energy to do else but have sex.

We have 3 kids (7,9, and 8 months). So when I get home, it’s basically dinner, wash clothes, homework, discipline, yelling, facebook, twitter, blog, chatting with sister, etc. When I do get settled the only thing I want to do is watch TV before I go to bed. (looking at all I do everyday, I guess I just figured out why Im tired, huh?).

Im glad I was able to get that off my chest! Now Im gonna go set SEX GOALS so I can get my groove back!

]]> By: Tara http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2010/02/01/keeping-or-getting-it-hot/comment-page-1/#comment-9195 Tara Mon, 01 Feb 2010 14:43:50 +0000 http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/?p=1702#comment-9195 @Execumama - I love those shoes and want them but I have no idea where to find them. I just Googled "red pumps" and found those. I think it was God telling me I deserve some new shoes. LOL. @Execumama – I love those shoes and want them but I have no idea where to find them. I just Googled “red pumps” and found those. I think it was God telling me I deserve some new shoes. LOL.

]]> By: Tricia http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2010/02/01/keeping-or-getting-it-hot/comment-page-1/#comment-9193 Tricia Mon, 01 Feb 2010 14:27:58 +0000 http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/?p=1702#comment-9193 We went through this and kind of still are. I have started making an effort to put on make-up and stop wearing sweats all the time. Sex went south for us too (lol) we were sex-aholics before the baby came and then afterwards in my mind I was like the less you touch me the better...LOL. As women we do tend to let things go a bit so I try to find a comfortable balance. I notice that when I workout I seem to find the necessary energy. I swear 20 minute on a treadmill a day can give you a real boost. We went through this and kind of still are. I have started making an effort to put on make-up and stop wearing sweats all the time. Sex went south for us too (lol) we were sex-aholics before the baby came and then afterwards in my mind I was like the less you touch me the better…LOL. As women we do tend to let things go a bit so I try to find a comfortable balance. I notice that when I workout I seem to find the necessary energy. I swear 20 minute on a treadmill a day can give you a real boost.

]]> By: Peyton Lane http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2010/02/01/keeping-or-getting-it-hot/comment-page-1/#comment-9180 Peyton Lane Mon, 01 Feb 2010 04:39:46 +0000 http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/?p=1702#comment-9180 this blog definitely spoke to me! my daughter was born in august of 2008 (making her 18 months)- her father and i had been in a relationship for 2 years before she arrived, we were very much in love and enjoying everything that comes with that. once she arrived (via c-section), everything about our relationship changed. i had gained 50 pounds and so of course was not feeling very comfortable or secure with how i looked. add to that i was a 19 year old with a now horrible scar (i have sense embraced it). we got engaged a couple of months after she was born- it was one of those we should get married because we have a baby type of situations- and unfortunately we were never able to get back to the place we had been prior to having her. we broke up and now i am a totally independent single mom. my advice to those who are struggling is to make sure to make time for one another even when it seems impossible. afternoon naps for baby can turn into an impromptu lunch date. the first couple months of parenting can be exhausting, but once you and your new family get settled into the new ways of life, dating and sex, and even romance can find their ways back in! this blog definitely spoke to me! my daughter was born in august of 2008 (making her 18 months)- her father and i had been in a relationship for 2 years before she arrived, we were very much in love and enjoying everything that comes with that. once she arrived (via c-section), everything about our relationship changed. i had gained 50 pounds and so of course was not feeling very comfortable or secure with how i looked. add to that i was a 19 year old with a now horrible scar (i have sense embraced it). we got engaged a couple of months after she was born- it was one of those we should get married because we have a baby type of situations- and unfortunately we were never able to get back to the place we had been prior to having her. we broke up and now i am a totally independent single mom.

my advice to those who are struggling is to make sure to make time for one another even when it seems impossible. afternoon naps for baby can turn into an impromptu lunch date. the first couple months of parenting can be exhausting, but once you and your new family get settled into the new ways of life, dating and sex, and even romance can find their ways back in!

]]> By: Execumama http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2010/02/01/keeping-or-getting-it-hot/comment-page-1/#comment-9179 Execumama Mon, 01 Feb 2010 04:33:13 +0000 http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/?p=1702#comment-9179 I'm sorry. The post is heavy and I will eventually come back to comment, but I think it was a bad idea to use that particular image b/c I'm TOTALLY distracted by hot red shoes. Can I win those on your blog if I leave a super-poignant comment?? Huh? Can I, Tara, can I? I’m sorry. The post is heavy and I will eventually come back to comment, but I think it was a bad idea to use that particular image b/c I’m TOTALLY distracted by hot red shoes. Can I win those on your blog if I leave a super-poignant comment?? Huh? Can I, Tara, can I?

]]> By: danielle http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2010/02/01/keeping-or-getting-it-hot/comment-page-1/#comment-9178 danielle Mon, 01 Feb 2010 04:04:30 +0000 http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/?p=1702#comment-9178 i just want to say that im so glad that i found your blog and cnat wait for your book....i am currently still struggling with intimacy....before i got pregnant with my daughter (who is now 17mo) i used to want it 3 times a day to the point that my bf had to be like calm down he wasn't going anywhere (i had no problem with that) but somewhere during the pregnancy and then after i had her (i had ppd. and was in deal about it) i had NO desire for ANYTHING...i even told him to go with some1 else just don't let me know, cause i just didn't know what else to do. i felt bad for not wanting to be intimate. idk then things got a little better and im pregnant again and due in 4 months...loll however he says its better this time around then last time, but im still not where i used to be....i just want my mojo back....!!!!! sorry for the story....lol i just want to say that im so glad that i found your blog and cnat wait for your book….i am currently still struggling with intimacy….before i got pregnant with my daughter (who is now 17mo) i used to want it 3 times a day to the point that my bf had to be like calm down he wasn’t going anywhere (i had no problem with that) but somewhere during the pregnancy and then after i had her (i had ppd. and was in deal about it) i had NO desire for ANYTHING…i even told him to go with some1 else just don’t let me know, cause i just didn’t know what else to do. i felt bad for not wanting to be intimate. idk then things got a little better and im pregnant again and due in 4 months…loll however he says its better this time around then last time, but im still not where i used to be….i just want my mojo back….!!!!! sorry for the story….lol

]]> By: Shelly http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2010/02/01/keeping-or-getting-it-hot/comment-page-1/#comment-9176 Shelly Mon, 01 Feb 2010 03:03:24 +0000 http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/?p=1702#comment-9176 My husband and I have been married for 16 years now and I know all about what you are talking about. It's hard some days to be the sexy vixen I was once was (and she still lives in me). I guess we all have to find a balance to keep that spark going. It gets harder the older you get but thankfully the hubby and I have met each other half way. I try to purposely wear certain things and bend over in and exaggerated way to show him some thangs ;-) We do what we must to keep it hot! haha :) Great post and I am very impressed! My husband and I have been married for 16 years now and I know all about what you are talking about. It’s hard some days to be the sexy vixen I was once was (and she still lives in me). I guess we all have to find a balance to keep that spark going. It gets harder the older you get but thankfully the hubby and I have met each other half way. I try to purposely wear certain things and bend over in and exaggerated way to show him some thangs ;-) We do what we must to keep it hot! haha :) Great post and I am very impressed!

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