Comments on: When grandma acts like the mama http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2009/06/11/when-grandma-acts-like-the-mama/ a real look at a 20 something mom Sun, 01 Aug 2010 00:41:06 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Tara http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2009/06/11/when-grandma-acts-like-the-mama/comment-page-1/#comment-2025 Tara Sun, 14 Jun 2009 18:58:50 +0000 http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/?p=939#comment-2025 @ Cymonne - and that's another thing about grandmas. You sometimes feel bad because they did a good job raising you, right? So why not listen to them? But times are different now and you've just got to learn how to shift through their advice and figure out what works for you! @ Cymonne – and that’s another thing about grandmas. You sometimes feel bad because they did a good job raising you, right? So why not listen to them? But times are different now and you’ve just got to learn how to shift through their advice and figure out what works for you!

]]> By: Tara http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2009/06/11/when-grandma-acts-like-the-mama/comment-page-1/#comment-2021 Tara Sun, 14 Jun 2009 18:52:16 +0000 http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/?p=939#comment-2021 @Brebre - Yes, my mom gives me the sad face too! I'm like, "Mom you're almost 50. Why are you pouting?" LOL! @Brebre – Yes, my mom gives me the sad face too! I’m like, “Mom you’re almost 50. Why are you pouting?” LOL!

]]> By: Brebre http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2009/06/11/when-grandma-acts-like-the-mama/comment-page-1/#comment-1996 Brebre Sun, 14 Jun 2009 01:27:43 +0000 http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/?p=939#comment-1996 My mom also acts like my daughter is her own. This is my first child and according to my mom everything I do is wrong. I understand that she has been thru the "raising children product" 3 times and I do appreciate all (and I mean ALL). Of the advice but I just wish she would let me go thru my own trial n error phase. From the way I do my daughter hair to the amount of food or type of food I give her. Now when I try to tell her or ask her to let me handle it she just gives me the sad face n try to make me feel guilty for not asking or listening to what she say...so whenever I come visit I just stay quiet and think about when its time to go home. LOL My mom also acts like my daughter is her own. This is my first child and according to my mom everything I do is wrong. I understand that she has been thru the “raising children product” 3 times and I do appreciate all (and I mean ALL). Of the advice but I just wish she would let me go thru my own trial n error phase. From the way I do my daughter hair to the amount of food or type of food I give her. Now when I try to tell her or ask her to let me handle it she just gives me the sad face n try to make me feel guilty for not asking or listening to what she say…so whenever I come visit I just stay quiet and think about when its time to go home. LOL

]]> By: Cymonne http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2009/06/11/when-grandma-acts-like-the-mama/comment-page-1/#comment-1966 Cymonne Sat, 13 Jun 2009 04:27:46 +0000 http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/?p=939#comment-1966 My mom is a little of both. She comments on what she did with the three of us and how things use to be when she was raising kids. And at the same time, she is enjoying life as a person with nothing to hold her back. Most of her advice, I take it or leave it. I'm grown, I can do whatever I want now. She's rarely home because she is out doing her hobbies. She occasionally watches the kids for me but I feel a little uneasy about leaving them with her. It's not that I think she can't take care of them. My mom was married at 20 and had her first kid nine months after she got married. Then year after year, she kept having babies (my older brother, her first, died in an accident when he was 3). She was a stay at home mom with three small children and very little breaks and babysitters. So I understand that she is really enjoying getting to know herself all over again. I had four years of childless freedom, now I just have to suck it up and drive on. My mom is a little of both. She comments on what she did with the three of us and how things use to be when she was raising kids. And at the same time, she is enjoying life as a person with nothing to hold her back. Most of her advice, I take it or leave it. I’m grown, I can do whatever I want now. She’s rarely home because she is out doing her hobbies. She occasionally watches the kids for me but I feel a little uneasy about leaving them with her. It’s not that I think she can’t take care of them. My mom was married at 20 and had her first kid nine months after she got married. Then year after year, she kept having babies (my older brother, her first, died in an accident when he was 3). She was a stay at home mom with three small children and very little breaks and babysitters. So I understand that she is really enjoying getting to know herself all over again. I had four years of childless freedom, now I just have to suck it up and drive on.

]]> By: Chelsea http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2009/06/11/when-grandma-acts-like-the-mama/comment-page-1/#comment-1933 Chelsea Thu, 11 Jun 2009 22:45:38 +0000 http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/?p=939#comment-1933 My mom was a huge help in getting through the first year of my son's life, but then we moved away and I've been able to really establish my own values and set the limits that I see fit with him. Physical proximity is great, but it took literally removing myself from her presence to make me recognize my own identity as a mother. My mom was a huge help in getting through the first year of my son’s life, but then we moved away and I’ve been able to really establish my own values and set the limits that I see fit with him. Physical proximity is great, but it took literally removing myself from her presence to make me recognize my own identity as a mother.

]]> By: kaye http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2009/06/11/when-grandma-acts-like-the-mama/comment-page-1/#comment-1927 kaye Thu, 11 Jun 2009 18:59:41 +0000 http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/?p=939#comment-1927 Neither, to be honest. I guess I got lucky, but my mom has the perfect balance. She's involved, but doesn't step over the line. Since the day I told her I was pregnant, she's been supportive and confident in my abilities. My M-I-L has been great too, although I do have to put my foot down sometimes. Not that she tries to undermind me for anything, but my kids know that she is a softie, so they'll try and go around me and deal with her. That's when I have to step in and let them know that my word is LAW. Although I have it good, if my kids start their families as early as I did, I may end up being a little bit like your mom as you describe her. I'm already wondering how in the heck I'll find the strength to let them go. Neither, to be honest. I guess I got lucky, but my mom has the perfect balance. She’s involved, but doesn’t step over the line. Since the day I told her I was pregnant, she’s been supportive and confident in my abilities. My M-I-L has been great too, although I do have to put my foot down sometimes. Not that she tries to undermind me for anything, but my kids know that she is a softie, so they’ll try and go around me and deal with her. That’s when I have to step in and let them know that my word is LAW.

Although I have it good, if my kids start their families as early as I did, I may end up being a little bit like your mom as you describe her. I’m already wondering how in the heck I’ll find the strength to let them go.

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