Comments on: PPD http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2009/04/20/ppd/ a real look at a 20 something mom Wed, 08 Feb 2012 17:41:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=222 By: Shelly http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2009/04/20/ppd/comment-page-1/#comment-38250 Shelly Sat, 24 Sep 2011 17:38:00 +0000 http://theyoungmommylife.com/?p=802#comment-38250 I was 30 when I had my first (and only, so far) son. My marriage was shaky, so when I realized that I would have a young life to take care of soon I became anxious. I wondered if I was equipped to be the kind of mother and wife I needed to be at the time. It has been a tough journey for almost 9 years. Now that I am a single mom, the challenges are sometimes overwhelming. Thank YOU for sharing your personal trials and for showing us all that feelings of inadequacy are nothing to ignore. I agree that we should seek help if everything seems too difficult to handle alone. Motherhood is certainly not for the faint of heart! I was 30 when I had my first (and only, so far) son. My marriage was shaky, so when I realized that I would have a young life to take care of soon I became anxious. I wondered if I was equipped to be the kind of mother and wife I needed to be at the time.

It has been a tough journey for almost 9 years. Now that I am a single mom, the challenges are sometimes overwhelming. Thank YOU for sharing your personal trials and for showing us all that feelings of inadequacy are nothing to ignore. I agree that we should seek help if everything seems too difficult to handle alone.

Motherhood is certainly not for the faint of heart!

]]> By: Tara http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2009/04/20/ppd/comment-page-1/#comment-21498 Tara Fri, 31 Dec 2010 23:27:45 +0000 http://theyoungmommylife.com/?p=802#comment-21498 @Amanda - Hmm...putting aside the fact that I think your question is rude (something I rarely say to commenters), you've given me something to think about. Why didn't I have an abortion? From the post I listed a ton of reasons why I didn't feel I was ready to be a mom. And I'm pro-choice, so yes, abortion was an option. But I didn't choose abortion because I felt I wanted this kid, regardless of how much it was bad timing on my part. To be honest, I didn't really give abortion much thought. I was in love with my boyfriend and even though things looked shaky at the time, I thought having the kid was the best choice for me. I didn't KNOW that things would turn out like this - that I'd be married and in love with two beautiful kids at the age of 25. But it worked out. So I think I made the right decision. :) @Amanda – Hmm…putting aside the fact that I think your question is rude (something I rarely say to commenters), you’ve given me something to think about. Why didn’t I have an abortion?

From the post I listed a ton of reasons why I didn’t feel I was ready to be a mom. And I’m pro-choice, so yes, abortion was an option. But I didn’t choose abortion because I felt I wanted this kid, regardless of how much it was bad timing on my part. To be honest, I didn’t really give abortion much thought. I was in love with my boyfriend and even though things looked shaky at the time, I thought having the kid was the best choice for me. I didn’t KNOW that things would turn out like this – that I’d be married and in love with two beautiful kids at the age of 25. But it worked out. So I think I made the right decision. :)

]]> By: Amanda http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2009/04/20/ppd/comment-page-1/#comment-21487 Amanda Fri, 31 Dec 2010 19:00:00 +0000 http://theyoungmommylife.com/?p=802#comment-21487 I don't get it. Why didn't you just have an abortion? I don’t get it. Why didn’t you just have an abortion?

]]> By: tmpringl http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2009/04/20/ppd/comment-page-/#comment-740 tmpringl Fri, 24 Apr 2009 00:04:08 +0000 http://theyoungmommylife.com/?p=802#comment-740 @MoDLin - Thanks for the comment! I didn't want to scare any off motherhood, but I do think future moms need to know how it CAN be, so they are prepared. Those who think babies are wonderful, joyful, happy, quiet beings 24/7 will be in for a huge shock and that's no good for anyone. @MoDLin – Thanks for the comment! I didn’t want to scare any off motherhood, but I do think future moms need to know how it CAN be, so they are prepared. Those who think babies are wonderful, joyful, happy, quiet beings 24/7 will be in for a huge shock and that’s no good for anyone.

]]> By: MoDLin http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2009/04/20/ppd/comment-page-1/#comment-739 MoDLin Thu, 23 Apr 2009 20:23:31 +0000 http://theyoungmommylife.com/?p=802#comment-739 Being a mom at any age is a much tougher job than I think most of us believe. Good for you for sharing your feelings and telling it like it was for you. And thanks for the wonderful treat of the photo at the end. She IS delicious! Being a mom at any age is a much tougher job than I think most of us believe. Good for you for sharing your feelings and telling it like it was for you. And thanks for the wonderful treat of the photo at the end. She IS delicious!

]]> By: tmpringl http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2009/04/20/ppd/comment-page-1/#comment-738 tmpringl Wed, 22 Apr 2009 03:04:56 +0000 http://theyoungmommylife.com/?p=802#comment-738 @ Humps - Feeling unprepared by pregnancy is the worst feeling ever. I believe I let quite a few curse words fly when I picked up that pregnancy test...But this is just my story, doesn't have to be yours. I think you'll do fine :) @ Humps – Feeling unprepared by pregnancy is the worst feeling ever. I believe I let quite a few curse words fly when I picked up that pregnancy test…But this is just my story, doesn’t have to be yours. I think you’ll do fine :)

]]> By: tmpringl http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2009/04/20/ppd/comment-page-/#comment-737 tmpringl Wed, 22 Apr 2009 03:03:08 +0000 http://theyoungmommylife.com/?p=802#comment-737 @ Humps - Thanks so much for sending this to me. I just wrote a post about it! @ Humps – Thanks so much for sending this to me. I just wrote a post about it!

]]> By: tmpringl http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2009/04/20/ppd/comment-page-/#comment-736 tmpringl Wed, 22 Apr 2009 03:02:38 +0000 http://theyoungmommylife.com/?p=802#comment-736 @ Ms. Miko - Well congrats to you! Wow, 18 years of parenting...I can only imagine. And yes he sounds like a great kid (or should I say, young man). @ Ms. Miko – Well congrats to you! Wow, 18 years of parenting…I can only imagine. And yes he sounds like a great kid (or should I say, young man).

]]> By: tmpringl http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2009/04/20/ppd/comment-page-/#comment-735 tmpringl Wed, 22 Apr 2009 02:56:01 +0000 http://theyoungmommylife.com/?p=802#comment-735 @ Courtney - I did hide it very well, and in hindsight I wish I hadn't. Moms shouldn't be ashamed of the way they feel after having a baby, but I felt like I wasn't in a position to be sad, since I had caused the "situation" (i.e. being a young mom). But now I realize it isn't true.... @ Courtney – I did hide it very well, and in hindsight I wish I hadn’t. Moms shouldn’t be ashamed of the way they feel after having a baby, but I felt like I wasn’t in a position to be sad, since I had caused the “situation” (i.e. being a young mom). But now I realize it isn’t true….

]]> By: Courtney http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2009/04/20/ppd/comment-page-1/#comment-734 Courtney Wed, 22 Apr 2009 00:38:58 +0000 http://theyoungmommylife.com/?p=802#comment-734 If you felt that way when Ayanna was first born, you sure hid it VERY well. Every time I came by it's like you had everything together. Amazing dinners cooked, a beautiful baby you seemed to handle well, and managed to graduate with a 3.8 was it? SUPERWOMAN!!! I am going through PPD now and I couldn't understand why. I love my son to death, I went through SO MUCH to get him here, and he is an amazing (and quite handsome) baby so how could I be depressed? It's not that I didn't feel close to him, didn't have a connection or felt uncomfortable...I think part of it is because I love him too much...if that make sense. I center EVERYTHING around him. I raise him by myself all day, everyday, I don't allow myself to take breaks when I need one, and the concept of "me time" isn't even in my vocabulary. Then on top of breaking my ankle, losing my job, having no money for bills and now, just losing my father was the icing on the depression cake! However, he is the only thing keeping me going right now (and God) and why I haven't given up...the anti-anxiety & anti-depressants help too ;-) I'm confident there is a light at the end of the tunnel though. We're basically about to start our lives over and I'm confident God will work things out for us If you felt that way when Ayanna was first born, you sure hid it VERY well. Every time I came by it’s like you had everything together. Amazing dinners cooked, a beautiful baby you seemed to handle well, and managed to graduate with a 3.8 was it? SUPERWOMAN!!!

I am going through PPD now and I couldn’t understand why. I love my son to death, I went through SO MUCH to get him here, and he is an amazing (and quite handsome) baby so how could I be depressed? It’s not that I didn’t feel close to him, didn’t have a connection or felt uncomfortable…I think part of it is because I love him too much…if that make sense. I center EVERYTHING around him. I raise him by myself all day, everyday, I don’t allow myself to take breaks when I need one, and the concept of “me time” isn’t even in my vocabulary. Then on top of breaking my ankle, losing my job, having no money for bills and now, just losing my father was the icing on the depression cake!

However, he is the only thing keeping me going right now (and God) and why I haven’t given up…the anti-anxiety & anti-depressants help too ;-) I’m confident there is a light at the end of the tunnel though. We’re basically about to start our lives over and I’m confident God will work things out for us

]]> By: cassandra http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2009/04/20/ppd/comment-page-/#comment-733 cassandra Tue, 21 Apr 2009 14:33:04 +0000 http://theyoungmommylife.com/?p=802#comment-733 Very well put. Thanks ms miko :) Very well put. Thanks ms miko :)

]]> By: Ms. Miko http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2009/04/20/ppd/comment-page-1/#comment-732 Ms. Miko Mon, 20 Apr 2009 22:10:22 +0000 http://theyoungmommylife.com/?p=802#comment-732 Thank you, I have been doing this parent thing for a long time, like I said my son is 18, he will be 19 in July, and he's been in his share of trouble and I have the grey hair to prove it. But he is well mannered, he is graduating this yr. and he doesn't have any kids, he has a misdemenor or two mainly from fighting cause he has a temper like his mom. And all I know he could be worst, he could have felonies, he could be a drug dealer, hell he could be locked up for something worst. And not matter what I've always loved him, treated him right, and will beat him down if need be, and trust me he has needed it...lol..and Prayed I wouldn't kill him...and now when he graduating he is already enrolled in barber college, and on the weekend he helps out at the shop he will be working in. Thank you, I have been doing this parent thing for a long time, like I said my son is 18, he will be 19 in July, and he’s been in his share of trouble and I have the grey hair to prove it. But he is well mannered, he is graduating this yr. and he doesn’t have any kids, he has a misdemenor or two mainly from fighting cause he has a temper like his mom. And all I know he could be worst, he could have felonies, he could be a drug dealer, hell he could be locked up for something worst. And not matter what I’ve always loved him, treated him right, and will beat him down if need be, and trust me he has needed it…lol..and Prayed I wouldn’t kill him…and now when he graduating he is already enrolled in barber college, and on the weekend he helps out at the shop he will be working in.

]]> By: HumpsNBump http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2009/04/20/ppd/comment-page-1/#comment-731 HumpsNBump Mon, 20 Apr 2009 20:20:41 +0000 http://theyoungmommylife.com/?p=802#comment-731 And on the topic of Young Mothers - you may want to check out today's web video from Momversations. Different perspective but still interesting... http://www.momversation.com/episodes/do-you-judge-young-mothers ~ humps And on the topic of Young Mothers – you may want to check out today’s web video from Momversations. Different perspective but still interesting…

http://www.momversation.com/episodes/do-you-judge-young-mothers

~ humps

]]> By: HumpsNBump http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2009/04/20/ppd/comment-page-1/#comment-730 HumpsNBump Mon, 20 Apr 2009 20:00:47 +0000 http://theyoungmommylife.com/?p=802#comment-730 Oh mama. Thanks so much for sharing this very personal story. That and the comments from your readers are so powerful. While I'm a bit older (26) and having my first, I can completely identify with the feeling of being overwhelmed and feeling unprepared by pregnancy. It was also a "oh shit", "what am I going to do" situation for me. I called my best friend (Toronto) before I called my boyfriend (in Chicago). He wasn't even in the same country! Your post brought me to tears. Keep doing what you're doing mama. You are strong and focused, and your children will benefit from all that you have been through more than you ever know. XOXO humps. Oh mama. Thanks so much for sharing this very personal story. That and the comments from your readers are so powerful. While I’m a bit older (26) and having my first, I can completely identify with the feeling of being overwhelmed and feeling unprepared by pregnancy. It was also a “oh shit”, “what am I going to do” situation for me. I called my best friend (Toronto) before I called my boyfriend (in Chicago). He wasn’t even in the same country!

Your post brought me to tears. Keep doing what you’re doing mama. You are strong and focused, and your children will benefit from all that you have been through more than you ever know.

XOXO humps.

]]> By: tmpringl http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2009/04/20/ppd/comment-page-/#comment-729 tmpringl Mon, 20 Apr 2009 18:02:29 +0000 http://theyoungmommylife.com/?p=802#comment-729 "Love them, treat them right, only discipline when neccesary, and Pray. and every thing else will fall into place." Um, hello? Can I please stitch that on a pillow or something? Did you just sum up "how to raise children 101" in 19 words?? Wow...I love my readers!!!! :) Smooches to you too!!!! “Love them, treat them right, only discipline when neccesary, and Pray. and every thing else will fall into place.”

Um, hello? Can I please stitch that on a pillow or something? Did you just sum up “how to raise children 101″ in 19 words?? Wow…I love my readers!!!! :)

Smooches to you too!!!!

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