originally posted at BMWK.com with some tweaking for my YoungMommy audience!
What is it about parenthood that makes romance so hard? 
Is it the never ending stream of poop and vomit? (Definitely not sexy, I agree.) Is it the sheer level of exhaustion at the end of the day that makes it hard to do anything other than to collapse into bed?
While me and my husband are still considered newlyweds (19 months and counting!), we certainly don’t act like it most days. More often than not, we’re bickering with each other, getting on each other’s nerves. But we do love each other. More than anything.
But when you have two kids, the effort it takes to be nice to one another increases. I find it hard to be happy to see him after a long day at work if I know he’s going to head straight to the couch to watch SportsCenter and I haven’t sat down all day. It’s hard for him to be nice to me, if all I do is nag him about taking the diapers outside and picking up the kids’ prescriptions.
But we try to keep that spark alive, the same spark that enabled us to have two kids in the four years we’ve known each other. Our date nights are usually pretty straightforward affairs – dinner at Olive Garden, maybe a movie. Sometimes we even spice it up by going to Target! (I know you’re jealous.)
And even my single mamas struggle with this. Trying to be mommy and daddy has got to wear you out, making it less likely that you’ll be in the mood for romance and candlelight. (Or maybe the reverse is true?)
So tell me: What do you do to spice up your marriage or relationship? Put the kiddies to bed early? Rely on family to watch the babies? Let me know!
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Ever since I’ve had my son, I have NOT been in the mood like I used to be…which was quite often, lol. Between raising him on my own, taking care of my disabled father, trying to keep the house together, and just everyday stressors, by the end of the day I’m so exhausted my body can’t even allow itself to be in the mood. I’d definitely like to be, but I just feel so….ugh these days!
Since I’m single there is little romance these days. But when romance is alive and well its a great stress reliever.
Both putting my daughter to bed early or having her spend the night with auntie or grandma worked well when I was dating. I guess it depends on how old your children are.