Comments on: And All I Had Was A Lousy C-Section http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2008/12/12/and-all-i-got-was-a-lousy-c-section/ a real look at a 20 something mom Fri, 10 Feb 2012 13:42:13 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=448 By: Lisa Maria Carroll http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2008/12/12/and-all-i-got-was-a-lousy-c-section/comment-page-1/#comment-103 Lisa Maria Carroll Mon, 15 Dec 2008 20:01:16 +0000 http://theyoungmommylife.com/?p=285#comment-103 I'm speechless. I've given birth to four children, two vaginal and two C-sections, and there was nothing orgasmic about pushing a head with a 10" circumference out of me. I’m speechless. I’ve given birth to four children, two vaginal and two C-sections, and there was nothing orgasmic about pushing a head with a 10″ circumference out of me.

]]> By: Ms. Bar B http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2008/12/12/and-all-i-got-was-a-lousy-c-section/comment-page-1/#comment-104 Ms. Bar B Mon, 15 Dec 2008 20:00:25 +0000 http://theyoungmommylife.com/?p=285#comment-104 Wow, that's kinda amazing. But.. um.. yeah. C-section over here and it wasn't pleasant at all!! My labor was kind of out of the ordinary since it was non-existent. I NEVER went into labor, so I am scared to death of what the experience of having a second child will be like. My daughter was breech and scheduled for a c-section 5 days before my due date. Up until that time she was just chillin', which has always made me wonder if my doctor really knew what the hell she was doing when coming up with the time line. It all seemed right, but she could have been a couple weeks off or maybe Miss J really was just chillin' and in no hurry to meet me. I went in to prep feeling good. Until the doctor told me that I had a growth on one of my ovaries and that I might have to have an ovary removed!!! WTF, I just came in here to have a child, I thought. At the end of the day, I had a beautiful little girl and got to keep both ovaries... minus a tennis ball sized cyst. So, yeah, an orgasm would have been great! Wow, that’s kinda amazing. But.. um.. yeah. C-section over here and it wasn’t pleasant at all!!

My labor was kind of out of the ordinary since it was non-existent. I NEVER went into labor, so I am scared to death of what the experience of having a second child will be like. My daughter was breech and scheduled for a c-section 5 days before my due date. Up until that time she was just chillin’, which has always made me wonder if my doctor really knew what the hell she was doing when coming up with the time line. It all seemed right, but she could have been a couple weeks off or maybe Miss J really was just chillin’ and in no hurry to meet me.

I went in to prep feeling good. Until the doctor told me that I had a growth on one of my ovaries and that I might have to have an ovary removed!!! WTF, I just came in here to have a child, I thought. At the end of the day, I had a beautiful little girl and got to keep both ovaries… minus a tennis ball sized cyst. So, yeah, an orgasm would have been great!

]]> By: Rich Single Momma http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2008/12/12/and-all-i-got-was-a-lousy-c-section/comment-page-1/#comment-102 Rich Single Momma Mon, 15 Dec 2008 14:11:57 +0000 http://theyoungmommylife.com/?p=285#comment-102 I heard about this too and there is a website about it I think. Unfortunately my birth experiences weren't a happy time in terms of relationships. I had a C-section with my daughter after being in labor for 20 hours and a VBAC with my son. With my son it was too late to get an epidural so I felt all the pain. I did get to see him come out (had a mirror) but other than that I just wanted them to get him out. My nurse midwife (she rocked!) had the nerve to tell me to wait. I was ready to push and she wanted me to wait? I lost my mind right about then. My best friend took two steps back because she didn't want to get hit, lol! Orgasm was definately the last thing on my mind... I heard about this too and there is a website about it I think. Unfortunately my birth experiences weren’t a happy time in terms of relationships. I had a C-section with my daughter after being in labor for 20 hours and a VBAC with my son.

With my son it was too late to get an epidural so I felt all the pain. I did get to see him come out (had a mirror) but other than that I just wanted them to get him out.

My nurse midwife (she rocked!) had the nerve to tell me to wait. I was ready to push and she wanted me to wait? I lost my mind right about then. My best friend took two steps back because she didn’t want to get hit, lol! Orgasm was definately the last thing on my mind…

]]> By: tina http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2008/12/12/and-all-i-got-was-a-lousy-c-section/comment-page-1/#comment-101 tina Sun, 14 Dec 2008 10:16:19 +0000 http://theyoungmommylife.com/?p=285#comment-101 I had a great birth experience. Epidurals are great! I was singing and happy and could feel what was going on with my uterus without the annoyance of the pain, which was just fascinating to me. The pain and lack of downtime between contractions was horrible and I wanted a bat upside my head before they gave me the epidural. In fact, had I not gotten pain relief, my labor would have been much longer than it was because the nurses said I was fighting the contractions because of the pain. I think if some women want to experience the pain of childbirth the ENTIRE time, go ahead with your masochistic selves, but the orgasm thing? I can believe it I suppose. But don't expect me to try and find out for myself. I'll just take their word for it. I'm just amazed at anyone who wants to be kissed and caressed while giving birth. I didn't want to be touched or talked to while I was in pain. But I agree with Yolanda about the sexualization of childbirth. I had a great birth experience. Epidurals are great! I was singing and happy and could feel what was going on with my uterus without the annoyance of the pain, which was just fascinating to me. The pain and lack of downtime between contractions was horrible and I wanted a bat upside my head before they gave me the epidural. In fact, had I not gotten pain relief, my labor would have been much longer than it was because the nurses said I was fighting the contractions because of the pain.

I think if some women want to experience the pain of childbirth the ENTIRE time, go ahead with your masochistic selves, but the orgasm thing? I can believe it I suppose. But don’t expect me to try and find out for myself. I’ll just take their word for it. I’m just amazed at anyone who wants to be kissed and caressed while giving birth. I didn’t want to be touched or talked to while I was in pain. But I agree with Yolanda about the sexualization of childbirth.

]]> By: Yolanda http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2008/12/12/and-all-i-got-was-a-lousy-c-section/comment-page-1/#comment-98 Yolanda Sat, 13 Dec 2008 05:55:47 +0000 http://theyoungmommylife.com/?p=285#comment-98 I've heard of this previously but only through some pretty extreme naturalist parenting sort of environments (you know the types- strict vegan, only allow natural toys for children, and support extreme lotus birth). Although my VBAC was one of the most empowering and incredible experiences of my life- orgasm was the farthest thing from my mind. I can't see that happening for me but more power to the folx who do pull it off. Honestly I find it to be a bit offensive to the beauty of the birth experience to overtly focus on such a thing and actively sexualize something which is so pure and beautiful (and no I didn't bother to watch the clip, just sounds too out there). I’ve heard of this previously but only through some pretty extreme naturalist parenting sort of environments (you know the types- strict vegan, only allow natural toys for children, and support extreme lotus birth). Although my VBAC was one of the most empowering and incredible experiences of my life- orgasm was the farthest thing from my mind. I can’t see that happening for me but more power to the folx who do pull it off.

Honestly I find it to be a bit offensive to the beauty of the birth experience to overtly focus on such a thing and actively sexualize something which is so pure and beautiful (and no I didn’t bother to watch the clip, just sounds too out there).

]]> By: Renée aka Mekhismom http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2008/12/12/and-all-i-got-was-a-lousy-c-section/comment-page-1/#comment-100 Renée aka Mekhismom Sat, 13 Dec 2008 05:10:48 +0000 http://theyoungmommylife.com/?p=285#comment-100 Um, I heard about this on twitter yesterday and I have read about it in an Alice Walker novel but never thought it could actually happen. I just think it is kinda weird - but if a person does have an orgasm I can see how it would help push the baby out. All of those contractions certainly couldn't hurt! Um, I heard about this on twitter yesterday and I have read about it in an Alice Walker novel but never thought it could actually happen. I just think it is kinda weird – but if a person does have an orgasm I can see how it would help push the baby out. All of those contractions certainly couldn’t hurt!

]]> By: Courtney http://www.theyoungmommylife.com/2008/12/12/and-all-i-got-was-a-lousy-c-section/comment-page-1/#comment-99 Courtney Sat, 13 Dec 2008 03:53:04 +0000 http://theyoungmommylife.com/?p=285#comment-99 ...............................utterly speechless! I can't even begin to wrap my head around the thought of this. An orgasm? While pushing something the size of a watermelon out of the opening the size of a lemon?! (Look Who's Talking is my favorite movie, lol) There aint no waaaaaay! An orgasm was the farthest thing on my mind. If anything I was hating one because it's what got me in that predicament in the first place! Nothing about the pain, the back labor, the pushing, the crowning, etc was intimate, made me think of caressing someone or anything of that nature! Please remind me when this comes on....I call it BULL@#%$!!!! ………………………….utterly speechless! I can’t even begin to wrap my head around the thought of this. An orgasm? While pushing something the size of a watermelon out of the opening the size of a lemon?! (Look Who’s Talking is my favorite movie, lol) There aint no waaaaaay! An orgasm was the farthest thing on my mind. If anything I was hating one because it’s what got me in that predicament in the first place! Nothing about the pain, the back labor, the pushing, the crowning, etc was intimate, made me think of caressing someone or anything of that nature! Please remind me when this comes on….I call it BULL@#%$!!!!

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